As we move out of the shock of losing our daughter Teal and into the reality of living the rest of our lives without her, it feels right to share some observations of what happened out in the world as this all unfolded. Particularly on Facebook. Basically healing of so many kinds has happened — incredible healing that might never have happened if Teal had not died.
As I wrote here yesterday, it was her fondest wish to become a healer. She so wanted to be in the space of healing and joy … she was truly called to love and nurture people from the bottom of her heart throughout her life. And people remembered it. At the Celebration Party for her life that we had in San Francisco a few days ago, we heard from an incredible array of people — from her fellow baristas in their early twenties to the tough guys who grew up on the street and were brought down by her smile at the gym where she learned martial arts and forms of fighting. We heard from prominent coaches in the Bay Area who would go out to lunch with Teal to advise her on her career path and end up being coached by Teal. And from a young man who dated Teal and shared the sweetest story of remembering watching the Transit of Venus with her.
Along the way over these last few weeks, in my own life, I have healed some of my relationships in amazing way. Because the truth must emerge at times like this, and as we know, love is the truth — not pettiness and anger. First I was joined by my former husband, Larry, and our son the day after her cardiac arrests. That, alone, has been amazing. My former husband and I had already had a decent, amicable friendship which we told ourselves we were doing for the kids. But the loss of one of those precious kids brings things into a whole new light. I really love this man, and he really loves me. And I know we will support each other, no matter what, as we move through this crisis.